What’s to blame for weight loss feeling SO complicated every time?
DON’T KILL THE MESSENGER…
but it’s your people-pleasing tendencies!
When it comes to your health, you value FEELING IT OUT and make decisions that are rooted in prioritizing the health of your relationships, because you want your decision to “feel right” for you AND serve those around you, too.
Other people may be willing to abandon their relationships to achieve their weight loss goals, but not you.
You NOTICE how your community would be impacted by the habit changes you want to make… although sometimes you care too much about what others’ think when it comes to your results or you worry that your personal goals are leaving you too little time to tend to others.
You have a natural ability to MAKE OTHERS FEEL SEEN… in your ability to bring us our favorite treat or ask us to meet you for dinner when you know we’ve had a bad day.
You understand that your heart is the most POWERFUL tool in your arsenal
⬆️ This is truly a gift!
That said… because you care so much about being accepted by your community, you also have the tendency to let the needs and opinions of other people triumph over your own.
You may have the best laid plan for meal prep or taking a walk... but the minute someone needs you, you drop your goals in an instant.
Tell me… how many times has your bag of spinach rotted in the refrigerator drawer because someone needed something and you never got to cooking that Instagram recipe you saved?
Your own desire to connect with others can be your worst enemy... causing you to distance yourself from your ultimate weight loss, health & body goals.
Learning to use your feelings with intention, instead of letting them run the show, is the very thing you need to get the weight loss you’ve been desperate to achieve.
Let’s break it down…
Your homework to start combating your people-pleasing tendencies:
Next time you’re going out to eat with friends:
I want you to pick the restaurant to go to, instead of deferring the choice to someone else, worrying about whether other people will like it, or thinking about what your pick says about you in the eyes of others.
Instead of thinking about this as an emotional decision, I want you to choose a restaurant that will work for your own health goals, instead of sacrificing them in the moment.
You spend so much time worrying about others (and it’s such a beautiful thing!) but I challenge you to give yourself permission to put YOUR needs first. I’m sure you’ll find that others are happy to support you in that mission. You can serve others better when you’re taken care of first.
Send me a DM if you try it & let me know how it goes!
“When you say ‘yes’ to others, make sure you aren’t saying ‘no’ to yourself.”
Paulo Coelho
GET ANCHORED. GET ANCHORED. GET ANCHORED.
GET ANCHORED. GET ANCHORED. GET ANCHORED.
"But Julia, how can I stop letting my people-pleasing tendencies sabotage me?”
Good news: I designed my mini course Get Anchored to help you break free from the overwhelm of your pressure to serve others and get specific about the few things YOU need to focus on to get consistent and stop getting in your own way.
It becomes easier to honor YOUR goals when it’s not overly complicated!!
This 4-part course (which can be completed in UNDER an hour) is designed to show you how to cut through the noise of “doing it all” and narrow your focus to just the “BIG ROCKS” habits you need to focus on to see results.
This isn’t cookie-cutter weight loss advice. This is me holding your hand through simple self-exploration (yep, there’s THREE worksheets that help you get into your own wants and needs!!), so you walk away with a plan made just for you.
It’s your fool-proof roadmap to:
implementing 1-3 habits that actually make sense for you personally
making progress without unnecessary mental overload
losing weight without losing your mind
And you can dive in for just $37 today!!
Here’s what my clients would tell you:
Hi I'm Coach Julia!!
Ever felt like you're crushing it in every area of your life... except when it comes to food and your body? That was totally me after COVID hit.
There I was in 2020, about 10 pounds heavier after lockdown, freshly single, and desperately wanting to feel good in my jeans again.
I’d been gaining and losing the same 20 lbs since high school, and I was convinced that thin people were either lucky - or led incredibly boring lives and had nothing better to do than meal prep and workout twice a day.
It seemed any diet or program I tried was SO complicated & required that I turn my life upside (and give up basically everything that I enjoyed!
Sound familiar?
So I did what any determined person would do—I hired a macro coach.
I remember the day so clearly—September 8th. I poured my heart out in this long message, confessing all my food "sins"...
"Look, I never stick with diets past 8 weeks..
I get these intense cravings for sweets...
tell me I 'can't' have something and it's ALL I think about...
oh, and I'm definitely not giving up my margaritas!"
I was so hopeful. This was going to be different!
Finally, someone who would untangle the complexity that I felt around losing weight and making my healthy habits stick. Someone who would help me make it SIMPLE!
But guess what happened instead?
The same old story played out.
Restriction. Obsessive tracking. Weekend "slip-ups" followed by my coach just... cutting my macros even more. For 14 weeks, I tried to force myself into this box that simply wasn't made for me.
You know that moment when you think, "I'm too smart to be this bad at weight loss"? ...
Yeah, I lived there.
So what did I do after firing my coach?
Something crazy—I became obsessed with looking at this problem in a new light.
What if instead of trying to accept that I had to turn my life upside down to get healthy and lose weight, I figured out how to do it WITHOUT giving up my sanity in the process?
I asked myself “If I kept the same goals, but I refused to let it take over my life anymore… what would I do differently?”
Here's where things get interesting...
After becoming certified as both a macro coach AND an integrative health coach, I stumbled into a mentorship with a coach who specialized in mindful eating.
And suddenly, I realized the missing piece.
I’d been trying to “grit” my way into habits that created weight loss, thinking more willpower was always the answer.
But when I focused instead on finding the overlap between what I genuinely wanted in life and the food and movement tools could HELP me get there, instead of causing a roadblock to getting there, things started to feel easier.
My weight loss journey stopped being about finding EVERY piece of nutrition advice and assuming I had to make it all fit… and instead, I looked at nutrition advice as a menu of options.
I got to choose the strategies that could fit into my life like puzzle pieces, instead of a square peg in a round hole.
Well that shift... it finally made everything click for me.
Want to know what makes my approach so different from anything I’d tried?
It wasn’t ONLY about what I was eating —it was about rewiring how my brain sees food in the first place, so it wasn’t such a threat all the time.
Seeing my nutrition and habits as a tool for life success, instead of an enemy to my joy, changed the game for me
The truth is, if you're somebody who achieves in other areas of life but struggles with this one piece, you're exactly who I created this for.
Because here's what I discovered on my journey: